By: Karen Sylvia Rockwell
i. it was at that moment when I saw you looking so dapper in your coffin at the
Heinz Funeral Home in Beverly Hills Florida so far from your home well
your house in London Ontario //
when my mother (who had divorced you thirty-four years before) said to my step mom (who had just done a photo shoot of you in your thrift
store yellow shirt like the one in the window when you were a teen that you
wanted but never got and your pale orange suit also a last minute thrift store gem) // my mother said he looks great! If he wasn’t dead I’d go for him! she could say that because my stepmom too had left you sort of
living in separate houses for the
last ten years though she would bring you meals and
serve them to you on big platters
and when your sink
was full she would cart the dishes home in
her car
ii. it was at that moment when I thought damn you really do look good // I had forgotten what a handsome man
you were because even yesterday when I asked
to see you and they wheeled you out of the
cold room into the hallway
and they pulled back the crisp
white sheet to reveal your pale
pasty swollen face
which I kissed because I felt I
should and I was curious and at some level I wanted to kiss you good-bye // but even as I leaned in I was repulsed by the feel of your clammy skin on my
lips and I secretly wanted to wash them
long before I was able to
it was all I could focus on till the
doctor finished whatever he was saying
I didn’t listen I just wanted to find the nearest bathroom to wash off
the germs/the diseases that could be
// because to be truthful
Dad you were not a
fan of water it scares me you used to say
// since you
almost drowned once
iii. it was at that moment when the guilt hit me not for you almost drowning I wasn’t born yet but for not listening not caring
mostly because it didn’t matter // I saw you dying long before this at the hospital weeks before how
you smiled a faint smile and let us run you in your wheel chair laughing
(us not you) and put Santa slippers on your abscessed feet // and how with that same almost smile and that blank expression you pulled the finger of the stuffed Santa I brought you which farted and said Ho Ho Ho that’s a stocking stuffer much like you used to do only you said
excuse you! as you pointed a finger and blamed
your farts on me //
but you didn’t laugh
yesterday like you did then
iv. it was at that moment when I realized you weren’t blaming me
or anyone now were you Dad? for the farts or the abscesses or the leavings of your
wives or of any of your seven children // though you did lay a guilt trip
once on your second son you’ll never leave me will you? you said to his tearful
nine-year-old face as he promised you
no Daddy after the third of your first five had gone back to
live with our mother //
(I didn’t count
because I was a teen and living my own life by then planning my escape which involved none of my four
parents) //
but then he did leave that second son
but that was long ago and anyway
he made up for it by singing Old
Rugged Cross at your graveside
v. it was at that moment when I stopped to think on how long really
you had already been dead // here we were gathered all of us
to send you off because the body
you inhabited but never knew what to do with how to care for
had finally caught up to your
spirit which had abandoned you long
ago //
ten years ago already I said to you Dad what are you doing with your life? its like you are waiting around till you kick I joked
and you just shrugged that would be nice // at some level I knew you meant it but then I thought that’s Dad being dramatic like you were when you told us you got an orange for
Christmas and that you wanted that yellow shirt for years and that you walked
ten miles to school with bare feet in the snow // and I remember later thinking how
horribly faded that shirt must have gotten in that window and that hey wait
you grew up in California
vi. it was at that moment when I wondered who you really were Dad and if there were any clues at all
// my aunt says
you went to church while living with her that year but that you didn’t belt out Holy Holy Holy in the choir like you did when I was a kid and I was half hiding in my pew half embarrassed by your enthusiasm half proud of you // but there were those years in
between when you taught me to question
believe
nothing you hear and only half of what you see // those years of you toying with the
young Elders of the Latter Day Saints church inviting them to dinner posing challenges they would have to go home and look
up //
the decade of you collecting
degrees the Master of English and of library science the Ph.D. in philosophy minus the logic course you took several
times but couldn’t pass // what was that about Dad?
you who served your country’s military for
20 years in the Intelligence branch
vii. it was at that moment when I knew that your heart was broken wasn’t it Dad? as if it always had been and your brain was all you had // I always said you were like a brain
in a body that was foreign to you
like you were from another world you were always talking about life after death // you got a Ph.D. in metaphysics over
the Internet the name of your thesis ANDER: Afterlife Near Death Experiences and Reincarnation
// I looked for
you once Dad in the spring after your death
I said okay Dad here I am where are you?
viii. it was at that moment when I looked up and saw you a moth in a cocoon in the crease of my decaying patio umbrella and I laughed out loud at your eternal lethargy // the full length of the couch had
been your throne you would yell at us from there and we were scared of you // and then when I was a teen I remember telling you how pissed off I was that you had made me afraid that you were just a soft marshmallow really in more ways than that with your
protruding belly always bare and your Bermuda shorts I see you
scratching yourself up the leg of
them as you lay stretched out on your
side head propped on one arm
ix. it was at that moment when I was there again standing bravely in front of you on our olive green
carpet and you with the belt in your free
hand and me trying to decide hard medium or soft? it was the game you played with us
you called it mad belter
// you knew I
would say hard out of pride
out of challenge you always stalled are you sure?
and I would laugh out my nervous yes
and you would deliver a stinging
blow and we would both cry
and you would say with sympathy
you asked for
it honey you shouldn’t ask for hard if you can’t take it
x. it was at that moment when I knew you couldn’t take it
either could you Dad?
// like the time
you were standing there leaning on the kitchen sink looking out into our back yard sobbing I can feel its pain in reference to the frozen maple tree as its limb
heavy with ice ripped from its
trunk //
and while I felt
it too I hated that I did // until the moment when I held my
first child and I called you from my hospital room to say I understand
**Dad was first published as the
National Poetry Month feature at Morel South&West at www.morelmag.ca in April 2016.
Karen Sylvia Rockwell is an award
winning poet/writer, mom of six, Gaie of two, living in Belle River, Ontario with
her lesbian partner of 20 years. Curious Connections, her flash fiction
chapbook, was released by
Urban Farmhouse Press in 2016. Karen’s poetry appears in Room; The
Windsor Review; The Saving Bannister; Deep Water Literary Journal; offSIDE; The Grief
Diaries; Napalm and Novocain; Vanessa Shields’s Poetry On Demand,
vol.2, and is
featured in anthologies by Cranberry Tree
Press; Black Moss Press; The Ontario Poetry Society; Polar Expressions
Publishing; Ascent Aspiration; Kind of a Hurricane Press, Solarwyrm Press and Womanspirit. Read more about Karen at www.karerock.com.